| Re: some support and advice???
I am on my second marriage and have been through divorce many years ago. My ex messed around and got caught. At first I beat myself up wondering what I could have done different or what I did wrong to make it fail. Well, it took a while but I came to the realization that we were 2 different people and it wasn't meant to be. No matter what I could have done, she chose her path in life. When I left the court house after the divorce it felt like a giant weight was removed from my shoulders. I will admit it was hard to get over. Even after I met my wife, there was still residue left over from the first marriage. I do want to say that now I am more happy than I could ever have been if I would have stayed married to my first wife.
I can suggest that your friend might try joining Parent without Partners. I did when I became single again and it was very very helpful for me. Meeting and talking to other women and what they went through with their marriage made me realize that I wasn't so bad after all.
We wonder why life throws out these challenges and we go through painfull situations. Well that's how our spirit or soul learns and how we become a better person.
Just my 2 cents worth.
I wish your friend the best.
Bryan
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