I take it most of you guys are not married

**salvasol** · **10-27-09, 05:00 PM**

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MatrixDweller wrote:

Sorry...didn't know I was crossing any lines. I was just airing my dirty laundry and hoping that I might get supportive answers in return. I don't really have an outlet for this elsewhere.

I do agree that Marriage should be about give and take and making sacrifices.

My advise (even if I'm not the right person to give).....go to a marriage counselor; try to work things out before is to late

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**glaufman** · **10-27-09, 10:48 PM**

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salvasol wrote:

My advise (even if I'm not the right person to give).....go to a marriage counselor; try to work things out before is to late

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+1. Trouble is it's really hard to find one who can be truly objective and help work things out without making one or the other feel they're being ganged up on. My wife and I lucked ou tin that regard, when we went through a rough patch really due ot noone's fault... outside influences. by luck we found a someone who'd gone through the same troubles in their life. Having been there and back and gotten the t-shirt, I personally believe that every couple should be in counselling at all times, sort of as a preventative maintenance thing... get the oil changed regularly? Have blood work done every year? Spend an hour every so often checking up on the ole relationship. Mor eoften when there are troubles.

**the_diyr** · **10-28-09, 08:05 AM**

Well the wife is a little hot this morning.. Seems someone forgot to pay the electric bill.. YEP it was me .. I got my first Entergy late notice today .. Wow .. I never get late notices.. LOL.. Anyway I have to put my speaker projects on hold for a few days .. Entergy got me this month for a whopping 325.00 dollars .. Man one of these days I am going to buy some solar panels... ( May be my next DIY project )

**panaman** · **10-28-09, 08:20 AM**

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the_diyr wrote:

Well the wife is a little hot this morning.. Seems someone forgot to pay the electric bill.. YEP it was me .. I got my first Entergy late notice today .. Wow .. I never get late notices.. LOL.. Anyway I have to put my speaker projects on hold for a few days .. Entergy got me this month for a whopping 325.00 dollars .. Man one of these days I am going to buy some solar panels... ( May be my next DIY project )

I'm with ya.... my entire house is run off electricity... i would love to put solar panels on the roof

**Andysu** · **10-28-09, 04:37 PM**

Marry someone who shares the same common grounds of interests otherwise it wont work out between the two of you.

I’m married to my JBL speakers and nothing or no one is going to come between us.

**salvasol** · **10-28-09, 04:41 PM**

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Andysu wrote:

I’m married to my JBL speakers and nothing or no one is going to come between us.

Are you sure???? ..........What about other JBL's????

**SQCherokee** · **10-29-09, 02:01 AM**

counselors can do alot of good. However the one my wife and I went to told us opposite things, she told me how she saw what I desired for our relationship and my heart and said she thought we could work things out....while she was telling my wife that she should leave me and she didn't think that it was to early in our relationship to divorce me.

I was served with divorce papers, however inspite of the things we have both done wrong and how angry she was, and how hurt we both were we are geting back together. Because we focus on each other, and what God wants for us. And we both have a really strong desire for our son to not grow up in two houses.

**glaufman** · **10-29-09, 10:31 AM**

That stinks. Sorry. To me that clearly was not a good counsellor... One of the things I liked about the one we went to is after he spoke to us individually, we always finished together ... didn't realize it at the time, but it turns out that seems to have been a good gut check if they're saying the same things ... but you'd both have to be alert to it...
We went in fairly alert, my wife has spoke to shrinks before and not really like the 3 or 4 she started with... Truth is, she wanted to go to this one alone, and I insisted on making it a couples thing, because I thought she was going to have a problem with this guy just like the others, and I wanted ot see for myself what she was objecting to...

**ironglen** · **10-29-09, 04:38 PM**

After hearing what my in-laws received for their professional counseling, I'd be as wary as any other profession: I'd recommend using reliable references rather than picking one in a phone book. In this instance, the husband (loser unemployed unfaithful bum) was granted full pardon while the wife (a bit cooky, but employed and faithful) was repeatedly admonished for being 'tough' on him!!!

In this case, it did more harm than good for sure.

I may get hate mail from HTS'ers for this, but you've gotta admit that this is a costly, time intensive, and sometimes room obtrusive hobby, and like the commercials say- PRICELESS!

**nerdful1** · **10-29-09, 08:20 PM**

How about if a friend who married into inlaws circle, learned to know this wife of a family member was really kooky, did bad illegal things, always high on something, worse than coasting through stop signs, you may not enjoy her around for turkey dinner, when asked what her job was she is a marriage consular.

**glaufman** · **10-30-09, 11:03 AM**

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ironglen wrote:

I'd recommend using reliable references rather than picking one in a phone book.

I'd agree.

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nerdful1 wrote:

How about if a friend who married into inlaws circle, learned to know this wife of a family member was really kooky, did bad illegal things, always high on something, worse than coasting through stop signs, you may not enjoy her around for turkey dinner, when asked what her job was she is a marriage consular.

I personally do not judge how good someone is at their job by how they handle their personal life. That being said, a counsellor should never be anyone who has ANY connection to or knowledge of the individuals, or their friends/families...

**spartanstew** · **11-01-09, 11:27 PM**

When when we were looking to build a house 6 years ago, my wife is the one that said "Make sure there's a room where you can build a dedicated HT". She's a big movie fan.

**mjg100** · **11-02-09, 07:07 AM**

Been married for 16 years. I had a small HT setup in my living room when I met my wife. I now have two HT setups. One in in the family room and the other is in a dedicated room. I have always spent what I wanted, except for right now due to the economy. My wife is a stay home mother, but she does do a lot of volunteering. Since I make all of the money she does not say a whole lot. She likes the HT, but she does not love the HT. If it came down to a choice of my HT or my wife I would pick my wife, but she is a very nice person and would not put me in that situation.

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