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post #1 of 28 Old 04-02-11, 08:18 AM Thread Starter
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Wife support

I need some advice on how to convince my wife I am not going overboard and to be 90% supportive of the project. I am planning what I believe to be a reasonable project with a modest room size, home built speakers, and listening to her advice when she didn't want to see any of the speakers. She believes that since I have been reading the forums I have become an audio snob, and I am spending way too much on the speakers. Speakers that I wouldn't be able to discern from cheaper speaker choices. The speakers are estimated to be about ~$2000 in drivers, crossovers, subs, and amps for a 5.1 system. While I admit there are cheaper options, but the quality to price ratio is very good. Have you been in this situation before and if so how did you turn your spouse around so they are more supportive and understanding.


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post #2 of 28 Old 04-02-11, 09:23 AM
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Re: Wife support

I wasn't able to convince her of anything until it was finally set up and she got to hear the system. Good luck convincing a woman of anything......
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Best way I have seen, used or helped customers to use is to either get some of her favorite music or movies and bring them with to an audition. Obviously with DIY speakers it will be harder but you could take her to an audio shop and play some cheap speakers vs better speakers, especially with movies it quickly becomes apparent on a quality difference. The notebook is a great demo movie for women, the rain scene always seems to evoke plenty of emotions when played back on a good system.

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post #4 of 28 Old 04-02-11, 12:37 PM
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What speaker project did you have in mind? Do you really want/need high end HT, or did you want it for music?

While I think it is important to go for what you want, not doing anything your wife wants might cause more trouble then its worth.

If she doesn't want to see speakers, maybe you could use these. http://emotiva.com/uaw62.shtm
post #5 of 28 Old 04-03-11, 06:52 PM
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I NEVER EVER used the works "man cave" always used home theater. I told her what I had planned and let her do the decorations (paint scheme, do dads) she was 100% behind the project after that.
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post #6 of 28 Old 04-04-11, 03:18 PM
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Re: Wife support

If one of us could come up with a fool proof solution for our audio obsession and the wife factor...they would be very wealthy!!!

One wise person older than I suggested that for every dollar spent on audio, you spend $2 on jewelry for her (2 to 1 ratio). Holy smokes!!! I'm dead broke then
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My wife and I have an unspoken understanding: she can decorate most of the house as she likes (although we have to compromise on major projects cuz I get stuck with the carpentry, tiling, electrical, etc), but I get to do my own thing with my side of the bedroom (bedroom HT; some car stuff) and the HT room in the basement. I LIKE to see the techie electronics, Def Tech tower speakers, cinema and music artwork, other "manly" stuff. She has her own 47" TV and DD HT in the living room, so it's not like she's being deprived. It's kinda, "Mind you own business...you have your space and I have mine." She DID admit that she liked my new three-head ceiling spotlight fixture I installed last week, however.

We've been married 39 yrs.


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post #8 of 28 Old 04-05-11, 01:01 PM
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Have to say the most effective way to get approval/support would be to have her accompany you on a listening audition. Even though you are planning the DIY thing let her "help" you decide what style the speakers should be like. A metal or fabric tweeter variation perhaps or a large tower or bookshelves? What ever the variance let her have a little say - even if not really, should go further then lots of other ways to bribe her. Get them involved any way possible is you best bet.

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Re: Wife support

smurphy522 wrote: View Post
Get them involved any way possible is you best bet.
Thats very wise advice, make them feel like part of the decision does matter to them and as others have said take her to a friends house or maybe a member from here who has a theater room and let her hear the difference between a quality setup and an budget one.

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post #10 of 28 Old 04-10-11, 06:17 PM
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Re: Wife support

+1 on getting her involved. Also, when you get the praises for your HT down the line, make sure to acknowledge her role.

For now, a good demo to demonstrate what a good system is capable of is a good start.
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