Correct, the BFD is not a good choice for EQing the main speakers. It’s extremely noisy, especially in the +4 gain position.
People here have reported success with digital equalizers such as the Behringer DCX and DEQ models (the former also incorporating speaker processing capabilities) and dbx Driverack products (pricey). That’s about the only current-model gear that comes to mind. If you don’t mind shopping used, there are great deals on first-class analog parametric EQs from Rane and Symetrix, and digital EQs such as Yamaha’s YDP2006 parametric and YDG2030 1/3-octave. See here for alternatives.
Outboard equalizing of the main speakers is no different than the subs: The EQ is inserted in the signal chain between the receiver’s pre-outs and the amplifiers. If the receiver has no pre out/main in jacks, then outboard amplification is required as well. If you intend to outboard EQ all the main channels, it can run into some serious coin, even with used gear.
Spridle’s experiment
You can also find links with my thoughts on using the Yamaha YDP2006 at the link above.
Regards,
Wayne