Given your speakers are showing good in room response right down to 45hz, why not try that as your starting crossover point.
Musically, I have found from time to time I prefer the sound of a speaker doing what it is supposed to do, with the sub just coming in where the speakers drops of.
If your not so struck on the 45hz crossover, then increase it upto and including the standard 80hz to see what your ears think of the difference. I wouldnt recommend going much over 80hz with just one sub, with 100hz being the max.
Chances are experimenting is going to be key, especially as when it comes to music, ears differ much more in taste/preference than they do with movies soundtracks. Try just running your speakers at their natural level rather than playing with tweaking their response to start off with. If your trying to pick a good crossover point then you dont want to over complicate matters by altering to much at once, it tends to confuse in my experience.